I really want to make one thing clear, but it's late and I'm supposed to be in bed, so it will be short but expounded upon at a later date...

Sin is sin. I did not compare being overweight with murder and adultery. I did, however, level the sin of gluttony with murder and adultery. Actually, I didn't, God did. There is no 'better or lesser' sin. If a person is overweight, they are not a sinner. 'Skinny' people are sinners, too. If a person is overweight because they have an addiction to food, it has become their 'god', that is a different story. It is a result of gluttony. If a person is overweight because they have a thyroid problem or some medical condition caused by something other than food abuse, they aren't sinners! If a person is bone rail thin because they despise food, a gift from God, viewing it as evil and neglecting their temple that way, that is self-abuse, also a sin.

At some point I'll share my journey through all this and the dream God gave me and the audible conversation He had with me, well actually, He just spoke and I listened, when He called me out on my gluttony.

In the meantime, I don't think that if a person is 'overweight' that they are sinners because of their 'appearance'. Sinners, ie all of mankind, come in all shapes and sizes...some sins can be 'hidden' for a time, others cannot, but the one thing that is true, regardless of our weaknesses, our tendencies and our 'secret hidden sins', God will bring them to light, because in Him there is no darkness. Praise God for that!

In 2 1/2 weeks it will be June 10, 2007. Noah's birthday. As it quickly approaches, I'm getting sad...7 months was just way too short! 5 1/2 of those being in TCH (not that that place is bad, the nurses ROCK and we'd visit every day if we were into emotional torture...). I can't even begin to imagine what he's doing in Heaven. I wish Jesus would come back soon so I could be in Heaven, too. I know it's selfish because maybe many of you don't want Him to return until you accomplish 'x', but, honestly, I don't want to wait until I'm 100 to see Jesus, or Noah for that matter!

I've been thinking of how we will remember Noah on his birthday this year...Jason and Em and I are for sure going to celebrate and remember him, as we do daily. Em wants cake like any 4.75 year old should! It's a little too late to swing what I want to do, so next year will be the beginning of that, Lord willing, but I think this year, on June 10th, we'll have a 'bring your own picnic' park extravaganza with lots of kids, kites, frisbees, etc, for whoever wants to show up. We've been wanting to have a big party for over a year now, anyway, so what better time to celebrate!? I'll post more details for locals later...

Anyway, I have a few other ideas of how I want to remember Noah's birthday, and, if others are wanting a way to do that, here are my thoughts...First, a bunch of my friends and I are growing our hair out in honor of Noah for 'Locks for Love'. (If you want to grow it out and do it in honor of someone you love, go for it, the more the merrier!) If we have an extra 10 inches by January 12th, 2008, then we'll all go get cuts that day. I'll post a picture of our 'before' hair later. Then, the fund that we originally set up to help offset costs of lab work and out of network doctors has been on my heart a lot lately. We have been able to reconcile some of those costs and there is some left over. We want to set up a two-fold purpose for that fund in memory of Noah that will keep giving as long as money is there...We want to give scholarships to nursing students since nurses ROCK! AND, I'm not sure if you knew this or not, but, Noah only smiled once, maybe twice, but both times in his sleep. He never smiled consciously...SO, since he's smiling all the time now, we want to consistently send money to 'Operation Smile' which is an organization that provides cleft palette surgery to children in 3rd world countries for only $250 a surgery! A kid can breathe and eat and drink AND SMILE after one of these surgeries! We love missions and wanted to do something medical that made a difference, so thought this was a good fit...

Finally, as I've said previously, Jason, my little sister, and 3 girlfriends were present for Noah's birth. One friend coached me, one had the camera and the other had the video camera...I've never watched the video...With a brand new box of deluxe lotion coated Puffs tissues, I think that's how I'll privately close out June 1oth.

*FYI, the Mother's Day service is posted under 'messages' now at www.redrockschurch.com Keep in mind I'm squinting because the lights were so bright and I'm not a big fan of hand held microphones, I'm a hand talker:)...Alright, I gotta go to bed...I'm slipping into hospital hours here...

I prayed that yesterday's post would be read by whomever God desired and that prayer and healing would begin in people's hearts...

Since about 10 people who read this blog are 4th and 5th graders in Korea that I love dearly, I am going to delete the comments due to mature content, but, Charlie, if you are truly seeking counsel and sharpening from godly men, go to "View My Profile", click on it, there's a link to my email. From there, Jason and other men can contact you and encourage you, praying for you and possibly be able to put you in contact with someone who lives near you...Thank you for sharing your story and know that many are praying for you and your family...

Exposure...
I blurred out my face and my friend's husband's face because my intent is not to point fingers or drag his name through the mud, though I am inclined to do so, presently, as a protective friend. I'd like to blur out his face for real, though I know it's more productive for me to pray, so I won't beat the tar out of him...God can deal with His son more effectively than me:)

I'd like to bring to light scripture and hard core truth that would really solve a lot of problems in Christendom if we heeded the Lord's direction on the topic. There's actually a ton of meaty content on either side of the verses I'm going to highlight, so maybe that'll be a part two and three or more...

• Matthew 18:15-20 "If your brother sins against you, go and show him his fault, just between the two of you. If he listens to you, you have won your brother over. 16 But if he will not listen, take one or two others along, so that 'every matter may be established by the testimony of two or three witnesses.' 17 If he refuses to listen to them, tell it to the church; and if he refuses to listen even to the church, treat him as you would a pagan or a tax collector. 18 "I tell you the truth, whatever you bind on earth will be bound in heaven, and whatever you loose on earth will be loosed in heaven. 19 Again, I tell you that if two of you on earth agree about anything you ask for, it will be done for you by my Father in heaven. 20 For where two or three come together in my name, there am I with them."

Before this verse Jesus is talking about lost sheep, after He shares a parable about the unmerciful servant, and then the next chapter leads into divorce...

So, what I am talking about here is sin. We all sin. It's not like one day, we just 'out of the blue' decide to have an affair or murder someone or hoard or squander wealth or be 100lbs overweight. The list goes on, obviously, but an affair starts with poor/no communication, then co-existence, then striking up 'trust' and 'friendship' with someone of the opposite sex who is not your spouse, then justified late nights at work and BAMMO, your new 'best friend' is not the one God designed and you actually think that person is worth destroying your family over. You justify in your heart that you can be a great parent but not a great spouse. In summary, believing lies...

Let's take the next one on the list...murder. You don't just go shoot/stab/whatever someone at lunch one day. There are obviously pent up emotions of anger and angst that build and build because healthy ways of dealing with disappointment, frustration, abandonment, rejection, were never sought. In summary, believing lies...

Or take over-eating and obesity. I can talk about this because I was in bondage to thinking about food for a good 25 years of my life. You don't just wake up one day 25, 50, 100, 300lbs overweight. This sin of gluttony is real and I lived it, though I may have never 'looked' the part, it's abuse of God's temple, our bodies. This one comes through daily choices of not taking a short walk, choosing life giving foods on a regular basis, and thinking food is something other than just that...food. In summary, believing lies...

So, back to sins...James encourages us. "Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous man is powerful and effective." James 5:16 Most sermons you hear from this scripture only refer to the verses before that talk of faith healing for the sick. Well, sin makes us sick. Worry, fear, anger, pride, lust, greed, control, passive-aggressive angst, gossip, etc, etc. "My brothers, if one of you should wander from the truth and someone should bring him back, remember this: Whoever turns a sinner from the error of his way will save him from death and cover over a multitude of sins." James 5:19-20 Again, this verse is mainly used in circles referring to people who don't know Christ, but James is talking about Christians who are wandering, steeped in sin. We need to stop expecting the 'hardcore, real' sinners to start fessing up and heed the scriptures that are directed to followers of Christ. I've done it before and will most gladly do it over and over again...I will air my dirty laundry because as crappy as it is to admit I'm not perfect, it's not like anyone thought that in the first place, so, it's helping me see what everyone else has seen all along and what God sees, and that brings freedom.

Jason's and my marriage is not perfect, but we work on it daily. We have always been best friends, but even with your best girl or guy friend, you make a concerted effort to know that person, to care for that person, to love them and show them you do. Why do so many people turn around at the altar after the ceremony and think that's it? Anyway, Jason and I have been praying for many of our friend's marriages over the last 15 years. Many have hit rock bottom and are on the uphill now. Some have ended. Recently, one friend shared with me that like we've shared with the world about Noah's sickness, pleading for prayers from all over the globe, she desires so badly to tell the world that her marriage is sick. She likened it to cancer, a sickness, that needs healing. Her husband, however, was not as keen on the idea of letting people know about the current state of their marriage.

Currently, a dear friend is in a battle for her marriage. It's her husband in the picture above that I blurred out and he vacillates between wanting to work on it and wanting to back out and take the easy road because he thinks he'll just mess up again. My friend has gone to him one on one. She then shared their heartache with family and close friends to come alongside them. Now, she's gathering an army of people around her to pray for her and her husband and their son. She has even begun blogging about it because, like the other woman, it's a sickness that needs prayer for healing.

You know what satan loves (it's the only thing he's capable of 'loving'...)? He loves to hate us. He loves to see God's creation, that is, all of mankind, in bondage to sin. He loves lies and is the author of them, so when we realize we are believing lies and desire to break free from them, he gets REALLY REALLY REALLY REALLY REALLY REALLY ticked off! And that's not the whole of it! He knows scripture more than many of us, so when he sees that we are starting to 'know' it and live it and walk in it, he freaks because he knows that a man who knows who they are in Christ is a dangerous force against his cause...the destruction of God's image, Man.

Soooooo...when we openly confess our sins to one another, or are turned from sin because someone we love rebuked us, we are breaking the enemy of our hearts hold on us. No, it's not necessarily pleasant! It totally sucks, really. Oooh, how fun to tell the world that I was a closet eater and literally thought about food all day long for years! But it has no hold on me now!

• James 4:4-10 says, "You adulterous people, don't you know that friendship with the world is hatred toward God? Anyone who chooses to be a friend of the world becomes an enemy of God. 5 Or do you think Scripture says without reason that the spirit he caused to live in us envies intensely? 6 But he gives us more grace. That is why Scripture says: "God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble." 7 Submit yourselves, then, to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you. 8 Come near to God and he will come near to you. Wash your hands, you sinners, and purify your hearts, you double-minded. 9 Grieve, mourn and wail. Change your laughter to mourning and your joy to gloom. 10 Humble yourselves before the Lord, and he will lift you up."

Legalism uses this Scripture to refer to not listening to anything other than Christian music or only going to Christian schools or boxing yourself into Christian circles so you aren't 'exposed' to the world. What I think it means is befriending sin. Befriending the temptations that so easily entangle, our buttons, our weaknesses, the thoughts that run through our minds, instead of taking them captive since they are in opposition to the Most High God. When the idea that having sex with someone else's wife 'pops' into your head, it's not a good thing. (Jesus covers that in Matthew 5:27-30) Don't 'befriend' that lie...

I love the book of James. There is so much meat in it. Anyway, the 'funny' thing about lies and sin is that it's not original. For instance, do you or your husband or your friend's husband or wife really think you are the only person to be tempted with looking at another beautiful person other than your own spouse? Oooh, it's not original! You aren't all that and a bag of chips! None of us is! Sin isn't original...it's WAY old, like, since even BEFORE the Garden (when Lucifer thought he was all that and a bag of chips), and until we get sick of it in our lives and openly confess it because of the blood of Christ, NOT CARING WHAT OTHERS THINK BUT ONLY CARING WHAT GOD THINKS, it will eat us alive, corrupt our hearts, our minds, our marriages, our attitudes, our relationships. It will cause us to believe that friendship with the world is where we were created to exist and take our focus off of heaven, God's presence, the place for which we were created to breathe.

I'm not saying to go look for the specks of dust in everyone and their dogs' eyes. Though, if there is someone in your life who has sinned against you, or whom you have sinned against, go to them quickly instead of allowing it to eat away at your heart. Follow the instructions of Jesus above and if, after all the steps are followed, they don't give a rip, walk away, with forgiveness in your own heart and pray. Believe me, James says that the spirit he caused to live in us envies intensely, NOT slightly. God will work on that person's heart, and if they still are self-serving even after that...I guess I don't really know what happens. That's between them and God.

My friend has followed the order of steps Jesus teaches to heal her marriage. She cannot force her husband to follow suit nor can she cause him to repent or choose to fight for their marriage. His submission to God is the only thing that can allow that to happen. Not all our sins have to be taken to this public a level if we would swallow our pride early on. Newspapers, tabloids and TV stations would actually report on news and not people's personal lives if we were willing to admit our need for prayer and sharpening in the first stages of temptation. I can tell you from personal experience, confession of sin to a 3rd party behind a booth or curtain has no accountability. When we are able to be real about our weaknesses, shortcomings and sins, face to face, full exposure, we are closer to healing and walking in freedom. Without accountability there is no motivation for change, and certainly no need for remorse and hardcore repentance...

Of all of my friends that have fought for their marriages, some ending in divorce due to their husband's marital unfaithfulness, others in reconciliation, one thing has been a central theme...each woman has RUN to Jesus, thrown themselves at His feet and in losing themselves, have been found. Each one can lift her head, not in pride, but because of where her focus lies, on the Author of her faith, the One that loves her unconditionally...

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